For most of my life I did not think of myself as creative.
I know now, deep in my bones.
We all are.
If you think you are not it’s most likely been taught, or criticized, out of you.Read More
A blog written by Carol Delmonico. Sign up to receive a notification when new blog posts are added. Subject range from social justice to life coaching to cultural norms and nonviolent communication.
Have you ever been at a meeting, a dinner table, or an event where one or two people do all the talking and the rest of the group sits in silence?
Right. Does it drive you crazy too?
Lately I feel like I am coming out of my skin when it happens. So I decided I needed to write about it because maybe it bugs someone else too!
I grew up on a Maple Tree lined street.
Walking home from school one Autumn day
I arrived at the end of my street and
into the majesty of dappled, colorful light that was raining down.
I have a bit of an obsession with listening. Or I could call it a innate curiosity.
Listening is a deep practice. It also has a quality of sacredness. I believe it could take us miles along the journey to a world that works for all. If we really, really deeply listen.
Here are 23 tips, or things to consider, play with, ponder, wonder about, and explore:
I am a voracious reader. Books are my other best friend.
One of the most vivid memories of childhood is when my little sister and I would drag our red wagon across the street and up the block to our neighborhood library. You could take out 10 books every two weeks during the summer. Sweet...
When my children were young, and they asked what I wanted for a gift I would say; “world peace, or a homemade gift." I really meant that. All of it. I wanted my children to believe that was possible. Peace and homemade gifts.Read More
Putting a book out into the world is exciting and scary. It reminds me of sending my children to kindergarten. I felt excited, worried, and nervous. I wanted them to be liked, even to be loved. I wanted them to be seen for their uniqueness, to be respected by others, to be welcome.
When I was a child we often rode three to a bike. One on the handlebars, one pedaling, and one on the seat.
The handlebar riding was both exhilarating and terrifying, a sense of freedom, and holding on for dear life. Being the pedaler was for the one with the most stamina, and being on the seat I had to trust the people in front of me.
The coolest part was we were riding together.Read More
Yup. I did.
When I was a child, swimming underwater- was for me- the bee’s knees.
I was lucky enough to have cousins who had a camp on Lake Ontario and spent hours of time submerged.
Immersed I navigated the underworld of seaweed, sand, the pull of the tide, and the watery quiet, the unique coloration's. I let the tide move me and sometimes had to fight the current.Read More
So tricky, this holiday thing, sometimes.
I remember when my kids were little and they asked me what I wanted for Christmas and I would say “peace on earth”. I haven’t gotten that yet. And I keep asking!
Over the years we played with sharing gifts of time, homemade gifts, appreciations and gratitudes and also material gifts. As my daughter said, we just like opening things. Boxes of tea, socks, soap, flashlights etc.Read More
Getting a pit in your stomach when you think about Thanksgiving dinner table conversation?
If so, this one’s for you!
For whatever reason stuff comes up around the holidays. We get triggered by someone else's behavior and being around family seems to bring stuff up. It's pretty common for us to label certain family members as bad, or wrong, or "the problem". We can also do the opposite, and see ourselves as difficult, crazy, or too sensitive.Read More
Our senses are available in every moment to be a better friend to us. Here are some simple ways to reset!
Eyes- Our visual field takes in the world. When it takes in a computer screen, or violent images from TV, or video games it triggers stress in our nervous system. To shift this, choose a couple images, or a view you have available and rest your eyes on it. Take it all in; color, texture, expressions, and shapes. Notice how you feel looking at it. Give your nervous system a beauty breather a couple times a day.Read More
Listening is a form of devotion.
Letting words like Mary Oliver’s linger inside you. Let them dance on your chest and in your head for awhile. No need to rush.
Sweet beautiful sentences like this “Attention is the beginning of devotion.”-are meant to be savored and to potentially change you and me.Read More
Change can be hard work and seem daunting sometimes.
I recently spent four years working as an RN/health coach for a hospital system. I’ve had conversations about change, either one time or many, with over 3,000 humans of all shapes, sizes and colors.
I’ve learned a lot.
Here's something to consider.
There is often a big gap between” I know” and making a change.Read More
I posted a big, long, juicy list of questions last week.
I changed the post a little to support it to be seen and heard in the intention I wrote it. If you'd like to take another look please do!
Ha ha. Still a little tricky, to write what is rising up in me.
6 shiny reminders for you!Read More
What is my place in the ongoing conversation about how we share and care for our world?
Particularly, how do we care for the neediest among us, including the more than human world who is speaking up loudly right now!
With that in mind I offer up these 50+ Juicy questions for you to explore for yourself, with your family, friends, co-workers, or tribe.Read More